Even the Daily Telegraph is offering suggestions for people who want to avoid The Wedding. What? The Daily Torygraph, stalwart of tradition? That’s a shocker.
But the existence of anti-wedding feeling is undeniable, so let’s look at some possible causes.
First of all, as the late great Paul Newman said, people can be divided into two groups: those who’ve been lucky in love, and those who haven’t. My mum, by her own admission, has not been lucky in love (two husbands and two divorces) and she’s sick to death of the wedding. Understandable.
Then there are those who say the extravagance is unconscionable in these times of economic difficulty. Also not a bad point, but according to walletpop.co.uk the wedding will cost about £100 million, and could generate revenue of £600 million. (Read the full article HERE.) Hmmm…
Finally, there are the anti-monarchists (Republic, Britain’s main republican campaign group has seen its membership jump to 14,000 since Will and Kate announced their engagement.) They have numerous reasons on their website for why there shouldn’t be a monarchy, and one of the most elemental is this: “they [the royals] demand respect and deference from everyone. The most talented and accomplished commoner is expected to defer to princes Harry and William.”
I completely get this. The class system is alive and well in England, it’s simply gone underground. Think of the snide comments made about Kate’s mum being a former air stewardess. I’ve had many, many experiences of being looked down upon by people who went to better schools or belonged to a better ‘set’. My grandparents’ occupations were maid, cafe owner, waitress and lorry driver. One of the reasons I’ve come to love America as much as England is because the value system is different – here, if you’re talented and willing to work hard enough, you can succeed. No-one will care where you came from.
As Mr Forrester says in an article on Wales Online, “I don’t see why we should be worshipping people by accident of birth. People are so sycophantic about it as if they’re from a higher plane – they’ve got the same DNA as the lowliest person on the planet.”
I couldn’t agree more. But I have – sort of – a solution:
Don’t give it. Don’t defer to or respect any of the royal family just for being royal – respect them if they earn it, the same way you would with any other individual.
This way, it might be easier to find the pleasure in what is, after all, a truly joyous occasion: two people in love getting married.